2021-08-29
TREASURE YOUR FRIENDS THE TOP OF YOUR LOVE HIERARCHY
https://aeon.co/essays/treasure-your-friends-the-top-of-your-love-hierarchy
Excerpts:
- Being within a supportive social network reduced the risk of mortality by 50 percent.
- There’s a powerful relationship between the characteristics of your social network and your mental and physical health, your longevity and your general life satisfaction.
- study after study has reinforced this conclusion, to the extent that we can now argue that the nature of your social network, and the strength and health of the relationships within it, is the biggest single factor influencing your health, happiness and longevity. They are your survival.
- It’s clear that, in opposition to the accepted order of things, for many of us, it’s our friendships that need to be at the top of our love hierarchy if we want to live long and happy lives. Friends can be our sources of intimacy and nonjudgmental support, they can be our life’s companions, they can be our family and our co-parent. Put bluntly, they’re our survival. But this means that we must decide to actively nurture and invest in them to benefit from their many rewards. Our unique ability to love many beings in many ways means that we all have the opportunity for love in our lives. We just have to lift our eyes to the horizon and broaden our perspective to see all the love that is on offer. And for many of us that will mean celebrating, treasuring and reasserting the love we have for our friends.
Dunbar's Number - 150 (5 + 10 + 135)
On average the maximum number of social network for each human being is approx. 150 (persons). This is called Dunbar's number named after the evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar who discovered it.
This can be imagined as three concentric circles. In the inner most we will have approx. 5 people with whom we will spend 40% of our time. In the next circle we will have approx. 10 people. Outermost is the rest of our contacts about 135 people.
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திருக்குறளில் 13 இயல்களில் 'நட்பியல்' என்ற இயல்தான் நான்காவது அதிகமான அதிகாரங்களைக் கொண்டுள்ளது.
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is an evolutionary anthropologist, writer and broadcaster whose work has appeared in the New Scientist and The Guardian, among others. She is the author of The Life of Dad: The Making of the Modern Father (2018) and Why We Love: The New Science Behind our Closest Relationships (forthcoming, 2022). She lives in Oxford.
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